Lack of Follow-Through

There are some nights when, for whatever reason, I can’t even remember what your face looks like. Whether it’s stress or fatigue or alcohol, I cannot conjure up your face in my mind. Like last night.

I’d never felt so awake, so energized. So at 11:00, afraid that I may actually rip my skin off or go stir crazy if I sat in my apartment for another minute, I left for the casino. Heels, blouse, full makeup, perfect hair, earrings, and a confident swagger brought on by something I couldn’t identify. Table was hot and so was I.

A few hours later I had tripled my stack. High fives, laughter, drinks flowing. I was alive, on fire, imbued with something rare and wild. Making eyes at the strangers who were making eyes at me. Smiling at the stocky blond with the square jaw at the table across the pit. It was late when the cards turned and I was tired but never more vibrant. With a jubilant farewell to the gentlemen at the table and a handsome tip to the dealer, I cashed out and let my bouncy gait carry me back to the car.

High on the thrill and all dressed up, I still had a few good hours left in me. My eyes fell shut and I imagined myself, feral and confident, swaying towards a faceless, broad-shouldered man who just happened to be sitting on my couch. Climbing towards him, straddling his lap, capturing his mouth with mine in an unprecedented affront to my insecurities.

The thought made me shiver with anticipation. I was on a roll; why stop now? A quick text message to an old flame soon landed me at Sully’s. Drink in hand, dancing in my seat to too-loud hip hop as he leaned in close to speak in my ear. He smelled of expensive cologne and light alcohol, an intoxicating combination of seduction and promise that set my head spinning. Some carefully-crafted words and strategically-placed touches to his leg worked like a charm. Ten minutes later found us exactly where I imagined: he sat on my couch, hands behind his head, grinning like a petulant schoolboy as I leaned against the doorway to the kitchen. The confidence I felt sent delicious sensations licking at my thighs. The scene played in my head again and I imagined his hands on my hips, his lips on mine, muscles beneath my fingers and not a thought to the world outside the window. The moment carried on just a tad past awkward and finally I shoved off from the doorway to make my move.

At the same time that he observed, “That’s a very interesting-looking fish you’ve got there.”

My new betta. Twitch.

And then he was up, across the room, tapping on the bowl.

My stomach sank. I suddenly felt utterly ridiculous in my low-cut blouse and trouser jeans, high heels and thick makeup. My confidence vanished, the mood passed, and I sank to the couch, resigned and rejected. Told him the story of how I came to own the fish, how he got his name. Then Fancy appeared from nowhere and he mooned over her for a while and sat down next to me.

I had been sultry and vixenish all night long; he knew what was on my mind. I waited for him to make his move. Instead, we spoke of politics (American and British), the illusion of diversity, the $8.00 drink he bought me and what I could do to make it up to him, his allergy to cats, finances and retirement, our mutual aversion to regularly-scheduled television programming, the increasingly-late hour, what turns us on and what turns us off, the languages we studied in college, and sleep-deprived nonsense. At 5:45 am, I laid my pride to rest and drove him home. I watched the sunrise from my empty couch and then went to bed.

With your face in my mind.

I’m Just Sayin’

These are *sweet* and my birthday is coming up!

Wherein everything changes

And I met someone tonight. I don’t know his name but he’s handsome and and kind and one hell of a card player and he’s exactly what I need right now. I may never see him again after tomorrow night, but by god, I’ll make tomorrow night count. Thank you, Circumstance.

Anything Worth Doing. . .

Wow.

Uh. Really. Wow.

I had one simple goal in mind when I walked out of my apartment door at 10:45 p.m. – distraction. Just to get my mind off of. . . *everything.* Disappear into the world for a while. (That sounds like three goals, but I think they all fall under the same umbrella.) It is now. . . *clears the smoke and fatigue from her eyes to check the clock* 3:23 a.m. I just returned home.

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Oh, Gracious Gods of Gambling

Usually, blackjack is either my best friend or bitter enemy. Last night, I simply made it my bitch. Turned that $150 into just shy of $500, I did.

Having had an exponentially worse week than last week, which was pretty bad, I found myself sitting around my apartment in my underwear, crying, cussing, scaring the hell out of my cat, and returning to the cabinet every five minutes or so to stare down the bottle of Vicodin I’m supposed to be saving for future dental work. I was hurting to the core, utterly alone and terrified of the future, desperately needing some reassurance from someone in particular that Everything Will Be Okay. Realizing I hadn’t actually eaten anything – nothing, not one calorie – in over 48 hours, I choked down some Cream of Wheat and, in the process, became completely fed up (pardon the pun) with the current state of affairs. I needed a distraction. I needed human interaction. I needed something to focus my energy on that did not involve the systematic destruction of my body and mind. I needed to get far, far away. I needed to feel good about myself again. And Caesar’s simply wouldn’t do. So I got all dolled up, complete with heels and earrings, and hopped in the car at 8:45 to began the one hour and fifteen minute voyage to French Lick, following directions I pulled up on my handy-dandy new BlackBerry.

Now, 75 minutes is a long time to ruminate on things, and that’s what I did all the way up there. I almost turned around several times, thinking that it wasn’t going to work, that I was wasting time, gas, and money. But once I rolled into French Lick and caught sight of the casino, it all melted away. It is, in a word, beautiful. After making the necessary, predator-like rounds to all the tables, scoping out the action, I sat down at a table full of men, as is usually the case. Aside from one 21-year-old kid who had obviously never played the game before (who hits on 17?! Honestly!) and whose vocabulary consisted mainly of “Fuck!” (that’s what you get for hitting on 17, asswipe), the table was friendly and rowdy, the dealer was phenomenal, and the older gentlemen welcomed me immediately. Though I lost the first five hands, I was already having a good time. I could tell that the dumb kid’s language, was making the dealer rather uncomfortable, so I eventually had to – very diplomatically – tell him to STFU, so to speak, as he was being greatly disrespectful to the others at the table. Which seemed to garner some amount of respect from the older guys at table, too.

This is what I love about blackjack: everyone is on your team. There’s no competitions, and everyone cheers for everyone. Even when you lose a hand, you celebrate someone else’s blackjack. Everyone wants everyone else to win; even the dealer is on your side. It seems to me that the very best of humanity, the standard that we should all be striving for in our everyday lives, is never more apparent than at the blackjack table, when we understand that we have nothing to lose from someone else’s success. With the understanding, of course, that the house will win sometimes, too.

And it was definitely alive and well at the one where I sat last night. I heard war stories from the veteran I was sitting next to, exchanged high-fives with all of the gentlemen when winning hands were dealt, even got a hug from one of them. We welcomed new players to empty seats with enthusiasm and frivolity. We encouraged those who hit their fifteens against a seven and busted: “You gotta do what you gotta do, man!” When one player was down to his last few chips, those of us who were up would help him out to keep him in the game. For the three hours we all played together, we certainly became friends.

And during the three hours that I played, nothing existed outside of that table. Nothing seemed more important than the number on that next card, than the decision to double down or take even money. The only thing that burdened my mind was whether it made sense to split sevens against a bust card.

The silent phone didn’t bother me.

The need for reassurance disappeared.

The worry and fear dissipated.

And my stack of chips grew.

And on the 75-minute drive home, all I ruminated on was how much I wish the world operated like the blackjack table operates.

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Difficult Confessions: Paradox

Why is it that the stuff that makes me feel the BEST when I’m doing it is the same stuff that makes me feel STUPIDEST when it’s over?

Random Thoughts After My First Day of Graduate School

I’m such a better student now than I was as an undergrad. I looked around during class today and saw people (mostly younger than me), surfing the internet, texting their girlfriends, doodling in their notebooks. Never occurred to me to do any of these. I was a rabid doodler as an undergrad; my class notes were barely decipherable amongst all the doodles. But I didn’t make one doodle today. I can’t conceive of the idea of NOT paying attention, of NOT hanging on every single word the professor is saying. It’s unfathomable to me. I want to hit these people upside the head. But I won’t. I’ll just do everything better than them.

Up until twenty minutes ago, I was the hairiest person I’ve ever met in my life. I came back from the casino (more on that in a moment) and, eager to rid my body of Eau de Cigarette before bedtime, hopped in the shower. Whilst thoroughly washing myself, I noticed something disturbing. (No, really, if you’re weak-stomached, stop here). My armpit hair was so long it was CURLY. I’m talking, think Richard Simmons’ fro. Yeah. I had Buckwheat in a Headlock. You’ve never seen a fat girl dive for a razor so fast in your life. Then I wondered what that implied for the rest of my body. I ran a hand over my legs and actually involuntarily let loose with Lesil’s patented Yeti mating call. It was bad. It was a two-razor event. So, Panda, Jenn – your job for the next two years is to remind me at least once a week to take ten minutes away from schoolwork and do a personal hygiene check.

So, casino. Today after classes let out (9:00 am – 4:30 pm, and we got out half an hour early), all I wanted to do was UN-EFFING-WIND. Having contacted my two trusted hanging-out buddies and finding them otherwise engaged, I decided to strike out on my own. Which means, of course, a trip to the casino. I was so pumped, emotionally, by how great class went, that I decided to actually get dressed up (which means clean blue jeans and nice sweater, earrings, makeup, and heels), and go out. I was amazed. So many guys (ranging in ages from 21-over 60) stopped to talk to me, flirted with me, smiled at me from across the room, opened doors for me, gave me Blackjack tips, etc. The trend continued when I stopped at the grocery for some late-night popcorn and Big Red (the soft drink, not the gum, all you non-Kentuckiana-residers). I felt like a woman for the first time in a very, very long while. I lost $90, but I had so much fun, it was so worth it. The Blackjack table I was at was very spirited, very friendly people, very lively, and we all played together for over two hours before I was out of money and it was time to go.

So now I’m home with my loving, lovely kitten resting peacefully on the table next to me while I type. I’m all clean and hairless, relaxed but energized about the future, and ready to watch the Redbox movie I rented today and just enjoy being young and alive. Life is finally good again.

Knowing When to Hold ‘Em

Why is it that my best and most rewarding nights at the boat are the nights when I don’t leave with money?

Blackjack was my friend last night. With $50 in hand, I sat down at a table with two empty chairs after asking the other players if a helpless amateur could join. Almost immediately after, a nice-looking asian guy sat down in the chair next to me. Now. . . I *like* asian guys. I don’t know why. But he promised to help me and we introduced ourselves. About an hour later, I’m sitting there with $250 having a fantastic time talking with this fellow. Having such a fantastic time that I completely ignore the voice in my head that says it’s time to take my $200 winnings and leave. So another fifteen minutes and I’m sitting there with $10 and his phone number.

Why do I still feel like I won? :)